Attention all man daters – I think it’s safe to say most of us have experienced a man showcasing his utter uselessness and claiming it’s just something his gender really struggles with.
Let me break this down for you. Have you ever asked your boyfriend to clean the bathroom, but he does such a piss-poor job at cleaning that you end up doing it yourself? Well, this my friends is him weaponising his incompetence.
The above example is just one of many some men often use to justify their uselessness and to get out of performing basic life-skills. This comes in many different shapes and forms, whether it be not changing his sheets for three weeks, not hanging out the washing leaving you with musty smelling knickers or one of the most triggering – not knowing how to cook a decent meal.
Now before anyone comes for me, this isn’t necessarily limited to men OR relationships, but in this episode of It’s A Lot with Abbie Chatfield, there seems to be a common theme appearing *cough – men – cough*.
Men Weaponising Incompetence Grinds Me F*ckin gears!!!
Abbie said it was triggering seeing so many posts from hetero-women showcasing how little their husbands did for them on mother’s day.
“From birth women are told that they are the ones have to organize everything and take care of men’s emotions. And when there’s a naughty boy in class, they get sat next to the good girl to take care of them and make sure that they’re going to be better,” she said.
Although according to Abbie, while weaponising incompetence is an obvious red flag, there is a way to beat the weaponiser at their own game.
If you are in a relationship or an environment where someone is weaponising their incompetence [especially at work]… start being really patronising,Abbie Chatfield
“Do not do tasks that aren’t yours to do. If someone is asking you to print a PDF and they’re a grown man, say to them “I can teach you” or link them to a tutorial.”
Abbie reveals the best way to deal with an incompetence weaponsier and why it’s time us ladies cracked the whip a bit harder.
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